Pay attention, you can always learn something.
It is pretty obvious to that who you surround yourself with makes a big difference. Not only that, but everything else that you expose yourself to can also have an impact whether it be music, TV, movies, or social media and blogs. There are times when it can be a running joke about how ridiculous the latest reality show can be. I get it. If you would have told me 5 years ago that there would be enough interest to warrant a show about auctioning off storage containers I would have laughed..at the idea of course, not you. Recently, however, I’m seeing that something can be learned from just about anyone. Some times it can be from what a person is doing really well, or on the other hand a lesson can be learned by other’s mistakes. I have heard it said that a wise man learns from his mistakes, but a wiser man learns from the mistakes of others. One example of learning from an unlikely source for me has been the inspiring show, the Biggest Loser…
There is one big idea that I have already gained from watching just a couple episodes of this show:
Without a “why” there is no way
It can be said for many things, but as humans we are driven by and motivated by values and beliefs that are deeper than the rest. Everyone on the Biggest Loser show did not casually show up because it might be something cool to do. One man was in a car wreck and his kid was injured because his front seat failed and slammed into his son. He felt that his son’s injuries could have been avoided if he did not weigh so much. Others were confronted with the harsh reality that they will likely die soon, if they continue on their current path. I do not know about you but those are pretty solid reasons and motivations to have a purpose behind taking action. No wonder they are putting themselves through this brutal process of life change.
Everyone has a “why” behind their actions, they may not be the most logical or the best, but it is there nonetheless. Are we happy with the “why” and the driving force behind the decisions that we make? Are our lives driven by a purpose that honors God, or by other selfish motives? Not an easy question, I invite you to wrestle with that question with me.
My Facebook news feed has been blowing up with people giving a daily post of what they are thankful for.
It’s definitely a healthy thing to do. Even when there are times if I get frustrated or irritated with a person, situation, or circumstance, if I pull back for more than five seconds and look at the big picture, one word comes to mind, blessed.
Here are some of the reasons for that:
My wife Katelyn, who I’m thankful to have by my side during this wild ride called life. It really is amazing to have a spouse who shares core values with you and can buy into the idea that we are a team with a similar vision and mission. We also just enjoyed a great Thanksgiving break with both our families. I do not use this word often but that time was, well, precious. I am also thankful for having a purpose in life, food, too many clothes, a place to call home (temporarily), scholarships, overall health, jobs, excitement of meeting new friends and reconnecting with previous ones, no pressure to be perfect, hope for eternity, and baseball.
On a random note, something else we are thankful for is that we have discovered jumbo marshmallows that make jumbo s’mores like the one below possible!
Life is short.
This became obvious to me recently as Katelyn and I went back to Morehead State for homecoming weekend. It is amazing how in such a short time so much can change. Not only are the facilities around campus updated, but the town itself has been updated with new businesses such as Cracker Barrel, Jimmy Johns, and a frozen yogurt joint…well played Morehead.
In just 2-3 short years so much has changed in our connections and relationships there. It was awesome to reconnect with friends and catch up on each other’s lives. In the same way that the physical surroundings changed, the faces of the people at school have now changed too. In a brief time, I only know a couple of current baseball players and have not met the brand new coaching staff.
When looking back, there is a common thread that exists between the friends that we can pick right back up with and it makes them different from the people that we have drifted from over time. The connections that seem to have a stronger foundation were the ones that we truly shared life with. Being an athlete placed us in a certain subculture and helped us form a bond with others quickly in this community. Living together definitely can help people connect and grow closer, but even that does not guarantee a genuine life long relationship.
The one thing that seems to be the real connector is faith. When a group shares questions, encouragement, struggles, victories, and other experiences in regards to their faith it is usually a deeply personal transaction. Granted, this can be a risky road to travel. We are left more vulnerable in these relationships than many feel comfortable being. But with high risk comes high reward. From having a community of people we shared life with, we can see people we haven’t seen in years and be genuinely excited for them and feel an instant re-connection.
The bottom line is this, what we leave behind in life is very important. The ripples that we make in our time on this earth will last much longer if they are based on relationships, especially those that share their faith together. This is becoming more relevant to us as we look down the road and the prospect of having children. Just living with them will not be enough to create a lasting bond. Our faith needs to be on our hearts and our primary goal needs to be impressing that faith on the next generation. This is a sustainable legacy and it requires that we keep the main thing the main thing. We don’t have a huge window of opportunity either, so don’t blink!
To catch you up on how our married life began, I thought I’d share this video. We figured what better way to begin our wedding reception than by simultaneously launching our non-serious Hip hop artist careers!